Do you go looking for happiness?

Happiness - a term very important now a days. As a child I did not ponder much about this term as I did not encounter what a stressful life is. As with all of us, maturity and age brings a host of problems. You can avoid or resolve them but cannot deny. Amidst  such practicalities of life you have to be happy. Now thats  tough isnt it?

I was going through numerous health related articles where they mention that you have to sleep for 8 hrs, hang out with friends, eat right, exercise and God knows what else, to lead a "Happy" life. Inspired by it I started asking friends to go out on weekends. Most of them were busy many a times and I felt lonely. I exercised to be in shape and most of the days I did not enjoy it. I curse myself for being obese and again I cant let go my love to eat.

Then I found in an article that look inside you to find happiness. Now what does that mean? I am not happy. What will I do to make myself happy? Should I slap my boss and say that you are most weirdest guy I have ever met? Kill everyone whom I hate? This is possible only in dreams. In reality I will have to mingle with them no matter how much I curse them under my breath.

I discussed with a friend about this. Yes sometimes I do discuss some earthly things.  According to him no one is responsible for your happiness except you. Give up on the expectations. Your indifference will either matter to those who want to be with you or at least will help you having what you really want to do. Bang on.  I started dwelling in my own world. I mix with people but dont expect anything from them. If I need anything I would do it alone. All of those friends whom I used to call thousand times and who never cared to give me a call back was taken aback by my behavior. As I slowly moved away they asked me the reason for such behavior. I smiled and replied "I am too busy nowadays".

Happiness is ignoring the negativities of life. They will be there so dont bother. Move on with more confidence. Remember its your confidence and attitude which people fear. What you actually do is secondary. Depend only on you. Well I am no lecturer. But these are the simple things which we should remind ourselves from time to time. Live and let live. Dont go nosy about others. People dont like them. Sing, make merry and above all live. Dont think I will put on if I go for a chocolate bar or an ice cream which is too tempting. Its ok to treat your taste buds sometimes. Exercise to have a healthy body and mind but not when your body is against it.

Dont go looking for happiness. Find it in every small things like chitchat, cooking, singing, gardening etc. Be more creative and stop gossiping. And so I repeat "Live and let live".