Friday, September 25, 2015

Happiness mantra

The one activity which makes you happy...ummmmm there are loads that makes me happy..ok ok I got it ..the one activity which gives you maximum happiness.. This topic reminds me of a senior of mine who few day back told me to write a single but too meaningful question for his training deck, just when I was planning to leave. I gave a weak smile, enough to convey him that I am in no mood to do that when my office time is over. But he insisted "please 1 question,that is what I am asking" as if he thinks himself to be Shahrukh Khan promoting KBC with "ek aisa sawal jo zindagi badal de." And as if I am a great question maker in his eyes(only for saying, just not to let me go early.)

Now coming back to the topic. The one activity that gives you maximum happiness. Well its when I am back after office and stay quietly in my room either relaxing or reading, or even singing ,that is exactly when I find myself to be truly happy. With so many stress in life from various aspect starting from your manager not thinking you to be productive enough even after you spend overtime in office delivering his wishes as your supposed work allocation,to your father-in-law screaming when you return just to complain about something which either me or my husband is not following or to the heavy traffic that makes your 1 hour journey as long as 2 and 1/2 hour..stress has different shape and form for everyone. It will metamorphose but wont ever go. 

The best way to deal with stressful life is to take sometime for yourself. I happily blog if I can think of a good topic. But the days when I dont get my free time is when I am over stressed. Even after returning home if you find yourself engaged in some tedious jobs thats when all my energy drains out. And needless to say that first thing that comes to my mind the next day the alarm clock rings is "I will be OOO (Out of office) today."

Thursday, September 17, 2015

I 'dislike' your post

There was a demand of facebook to indroduce a 'dislike' button and that was brought forward to Mark Zuckerberg when he hosted the facebook Q&A in a townhall.

The debate started like "It is our fundamental right to dislike something as much as we like anything." True. It is fundamental right. But consider a situation a 20 year old college girl posted her pic in facebook.She got some 70 likes and 10 dislikes. Among the people who disliked it were her own close friends and relatives.Now the impact of these 10 dislikes will be much more than the 70 likes she has got. It will have a negative effect on her. Similar would be the case of any boy or a man to get a dislike in his picture or post.

There are some status updates which we do not like. They are silly enough to be posted on facebook and shared to the world. But again they are very much part of the human emotions. Disliking your status will make you less friendly in true sense, as people seldom like the bitter truth. This will start effecting relationships. Afterall nowadays the social media is the most important way to remain connected with people across the globe.

Mark Zuckerberg suggested that he wants an 'Empathy' button instead of 'Dislike' so that people can empathize more.If a person has posted any status about his loss be it financial,personal or material people can use the 'Empathy' button to make them understand that they are by their side. Definitely here the 'Like' button doesnt work and 'Dislike' button doesnt stand a chance.

It is a fact that Facebook has become much more than social networking site. People's relation depends on the facebook friendlist. Sounds funny but true. Those who delete few from their friendlist is actually deleted from their real friend list.

Thus in my personal opinion though disliking is my fundamental right it should be good if we dont have the 'Dislike' button as it would do more harm than good. I support Mark's decision to introduce the 'Empathy' button instead.

Sunday, September 13, 2015

Thats the way of life

There was a little girl who was very sad and gloomy everyday as nothing she wished came true. One day an Angel was flying past when she heard the girl sobbing. Kind-hearted enough the Angel stopped by and asked the girl what has happened. The girl narrated her plight. To that the Angel lovingly said "Life gives you enough opportunities to fulfill every dream of yours.Why not you start working on the things you want.

The girl was adamant."No Angel you make my dreams come true. I dont want this life. I want a different life with different purpose and everything different." The Angel agreed to fulfill one of her wishes.But the girl had a long list , so the Angel agreed to fulfill one wish everyday.

The girl was very happy. She wrote down all her wishes and everyday she waited for a new day to get one more of her wish fulfilled. But slowly slowly she realized that everything she wished didnt bring her happiness, it brought many unhappy consequences. She started feeling unhappy again and slowly became afraid of every new morning. She was now afraid of her own wishes.

Soon she approached the Angel to take back the charm. The Angel asked her "What happened dear? Arent you happy now? You didnt want your previous life, You wanted everything new. Now when you have all of it, you are still complaining?"

The girl cried " Forgive me oh dear Angel. I was happy with my previous life as I got everything there. I could easily fulfill some of my best dreams had I worked hard. With the new life I have had many consequences which I didnt want. My friends left me, my family disbelieved me. I can do with what megre I had in my previous life if I have my family and friends back. I will work hard and I know they will help me whenever I fall down."

The Angel said "Life is a hard teacher my dear. It gives test first and then the lessons. Everybody is not born with the same capability but everybody has the same equal opportunity to make it bigger. The lessons of life will be repeated until and unless learnt. And thus you understand why God never gives you everything you ask for because everything is not needed to make you happy. Go back my child to your previous life and work hard for your dreams to come true. If you have passion for anything you will fight through all the difficulties and obstacles in your way and God Himself will help you move forward."

Sunday, September 6, 2015

How easy it is to go away from someone

It was late at night. Ahana was sleeping. She has to wake up early tomorrow for her office. Her phone rings. Its her boyfriend. He usually calls up at this hour lest his mother comes to know about it.

Ahana sprang up on the bed and softly answers the call.
"Hello Ahana, are you sleeping?"
Ahana: "Ya, its almost 1 a.m .What are you doing?"
"Completed my packing, will be leaving tomorrow night."
Ahana: "hmm best of luck dear for your masters and do keep me posted when you reach there."
"All the best to you too Ahana for your future. And I wont be taking my phone with me. It wont work in US"
Ahana: "why are you wishing me.I am not going anywhere?"
"I am wishing for your future. I may not be able to keep in touch with you and this might be my final call."
Ahana: "Dont be stupid. Do mail me atleast when you reach there."
"Ok..Now go to sleep and have a great life ahead."

The phone got disconnected. The next morning Ahana tried a lot of time to call him but the phone went unanswered.

As she laid to her bed at night watching over the clock and thinking when his flight will start and frantically calling him to wish once before he leaves, the phone call still goes unanswered.

Ahana's mom enters her room to find her secretly weeping. She calms her "didnt he call you before departure?" Ahana answered to herself "He has chosen not to call me again mom. It is his choice not to love me anymore. How easy it is for a person to leave without a reason just because he is not liking it anymore."

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