Life is all about Reinventing oneself

I was reading an article in the newspaper few days back where it was written that Life is all about constantly inventing yourself. I pondered for a minute to think what have I invented in me. What is it that I have found a knack. To that my mind replied that you had a passion for writing and reading and yes not to forget your singing.

As I recollected my life events I found music is a real passion nowadays which I would always love to go back whenever time permits. I started my training at the age of 4. I left it midway due to enormous pressure on studies. I restarted it again after marriage. Those were the days when my mother used to scold me for not practicing enough. And I was too reluctant to follow. And now even if I am too tired the urge inside me compels me to sit atleast 15-20 minutes and practice. The urge becomes more when I hear soothing classical based songs and think that I can sing it too if I give the effort.But yes things are not easy nowadays. At a young age the voice was powerful enough as it was taking its shape. Now I have to put a lot of effort to sing flawlessly. No matter how much I try there are bound to be flaws. Still I dont lose hope. A song sung in a satisfied manner gives me much pleasure and calmness than anything else. Its just a feeling that the voice is afterall not lost. Somewhere it gives me hope to sing confidently in front of people. Though I have most of the time received praises for my singing, its still my inner feeling which is too a perfectionist demands a  better voice every time. Its just like my own challenge to myself in order to be a better me and nourish the God gifted skill.

If Life is all about reinventing ourselves we can always follow a different path or traverse a path never taken or less travelled to discover a new and better oneself.

World Toilet Day 19th November

To start with this topic the first thing that comes to my mind is Vidya Balan with her famous dialogue in her commercial add "Jaha soch waha shouchalaya". Indeed we really cant wait for a cleaner sanitation because using improper ways of sanitation will only attract germs and nothing else.
I personally believe that government should take active part in building pay and use toilets across the cities and remote areas and make it a mandate for every individual to use a proper sanitation system.

I remember my uncle who is a doctor speaking to me once about his patients who complain of having tapeworm in their intestine. He said the main reason is doing sanitation in fields. They even attract germs responsible for urinal infections. Now it should be thorough mass awareness when the people belonging to rural areas would take it seriously. And obviously it has to be made mandatory to save people from frequent unhygienic sanitation.

I remember travelling to Southern India where I found almost all the public toilets were clean and well maintained. Whereas the same in Northern India are less in compare. If we start employing people in these areas and make all the public toilets to be Pay and Use we can ensure better services to people.

Lets make awareness that a proper and cleaner sanitation is required and is a right for every individual and lets save thousands of lives of those who die with the infections caused by lack of it.

We all have best friends who are no longer close

It was one of the chilly winter days when I was rubbing my eyes and drinking coffee while sitting at my desk in office thinking hard how to complete the list of work on time, when the phone sounded the arrival of a whatsapp message.

"Hey did you see Nisha's wedding gift from her parents?" asked by a childhood friend whom I considered to be my bestest pal when I was at school. Time has changed our relation. Yes we are still friends but we seldom speak leave alone hanging out together.

"Nope, I did not" I gave an honest reply. "Her parents have gifted her a car for her wedding" she typed back. I thought whats d big deal . In Indian marriages these are common. I replied "Oh really, thats cool. My parents cant afford it so I didnt get one and I myself cant afford it too :) "

I realised I might be very poor at joking when she typed "Its not about what our parents can or cant afford. Even if they can I wouldnt have let me gift me one". It stuck me now that my dear friend is jealous of Nisha just because her parents are spending a lot in her wedding. My mind took me back to my school days when she was equally jealous of me scoring higher than her. I now wonder how much simple and silly was I to still continue the friendship with her. I smiled and replied "Thats your perception dear. If Nisha s happy then what else do we need? Her happiness only counts isnt it and marriages should make one happy not gloomy :)"

Probably my friend didnt like my philosophy as I denied with her. She replied a one line next and we ended the conversation. As mentioned by Vinita Dawra in one of her articles in the Sunday TOI, we tend to remember few things suddenly out of the blue. Here also amidst my pile of office work,meetings etc did her messages reminded me of her behavior back in school which was the chief reason as to why we are not bonded now.

Returning home as I sat surfing facebook I came across a random post "Please like if you have friends who are no longer your best friends". I pondered for a while that like me many people go through the same thing. I loved my best friend so much that I never thought of being jealous of her even when in one of the job interviews I got dis selected and she got it instead. Now I realize that friendship levels should be considered with a lot of seriousness just to avoid oneself from being hurt by the indifference and jealously of the others.