It was one of the chilly winter days when I was rubbing my eyes and drinking coffee while sitting at my desk in office thinking hard how to complete the list of work on time, when the phone sounded the arrival of a whatsapp message.
"Hey did you see Nisha's wedding gift from her parents?" asked by a childhood friend whom I considered to be my bestest pal when I was at school. Time has changed our relation. Yes we are still friends but we seldom speak leave alone hanging out together.
"Nope, I did not" I gave an honest reply. "Her parents have gifted her a car for her wedding" she typed back. I thought whats d big deal . In Indian marriages these are common. I replied "Oh really, thats cool. My parents cant afford it so I didnt get one and I myself cant afford it too :) "
I realised I might be very poor at joking when she typed "Its not about what our parents can or cant afford. Even if they can I wouldnt have let me gift me one". It stuck me now that my dear friend is jealous of Nisha just because her parents are spending a lot in her wedding. My mind took me back to my school days when she was equally jealous of me scoring higher than her. I now wonder how much simple and silly was I to still continue the friendship with her. I smiled and replied "Thats your perception dear. If Nisha s happy then what else do we need? Her happiness only counts isnt it and marriages should make one happy not gloomy :)"
Probably my friend didnt like my philosophy as I denied with her. She replied a one line next and we ended the conversation. As mentioned by Vinita Dawra in one of her articles in the Sunday TOI, we tend to remember few things suddenly out of the blue. Here also amidst my pile of office work,meetings etc did her messages reminded me of her behavior back in school which was the chief reason as to why we are not bonded now.
Returning home as I sat surfing facebook I came across a random post "Please like if you have friends who are no longer your best friends". I pondered for a while that like me many people go through the same thing. I loved my best friend so much that I never thought of being jealous of her even when in one of the job interviews I got dis selected and she got it instead. Now I realize that friendship levels should be considered with a lot of seriousness just to avoid oneself from being hurt by the indifference and jealously of the others.
"Hey did you see Nisha's wedding gift from her parents?" asked by a childhood friend whom I considered to be my bestest pal when I was at school. Time has changed our relation. Yes we are still friends but we seldom speak leave alone hanging out together.
"Nope, I did not" I gave an honest reply. "Her parents have gifted her a car for her wedding" she typed back. I thought whats d big deal . In Indian marriages these are common. I replied "Oh really, thats cool. My parents cant afford it so I didnt get one and I myself cant afford it too :) "
I realised I might be very poor at joking when she typed "Its not about what our parents can or cant afford. Even if they can I wouldnt have let me gift me one". It stuck me now that my dear friend is jealous of Nisha just because her parents are spending a lot in her wedding. My mind took me back to my school days when she was equally jealous of me scoring higher than her. I now wonder how much simple and silly was I to still continue the friendship with her. I smiled and replied "Thats your perception dear. If Nisha s happy then what else do we need? Her happiness only counts isnt it and marriages should make one happy not gloomy :)"
Probably my friend didnt like my philosophy as I denied with her. She replied a one line next and we ended the conversation. As mentioned by Vinita Dawra in one of her articles in the Sunday TOI, we tend to remember few things suddenly out of the blue. Here also amidst my pile of office work,meetings etc did her messages reminded me of her behavior back in school which was the chief reason as to why we are not bonded now.
Returning home as I sat surfing facebook I came across a random post "Please like if you have friends who are no longer your best friends". I pondered for a while that like me many people go through the same thing. I loved my best friend so much that I never thought of being jealous of her even when in one of the job interviews I got dis selected and she got it instead. Now I realize that friendship levels should be considered with a lot of seriousness just to avoid oneself from being hurt by the indifference and jealously of the others.
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