I was watching the movie "Life of Pie" once more on television where Irfan Khan says at the end "its not the end that hurts but to say goodbye so unceremoniously does". He meant about his tiger friend "Richard Parker" who kept him alive through all the hardships and once he was safe to go back to his own clan did the tiger made his exit without even looking back. He felt betrayed and cried like a baby. The incident was so disappointing that he felt the pain years later while dictating the entire episode to a journalist.
Forgiveness is never easy. We all have to accept the pain and in order to be happy with ourselves do we choose to let go. But what if someone so close to you leaves you without a warning, a goodbye? What if you never get to ask him/her a question "Why did you leave?" I sometimes wonder we have the right to act like how we want but do we not owe anything to others? How cruel it can be if you walk away like this?
In order to forgive the above doing we need a lot of courage but definitely this will never be forgotten. Its not about the ego, the hatred or anything. Its just a question asking if the person had the right to behave like that. The answer will always be No. But the irony is the people who can do this no longer care for what you feel. Yes you must forgive them so that you live a better life. But time and again you will be reminded about the defaulter and way he/she exited from your life. You may mourn at the loss of a friend but its hard to accept that people can be hard hearted enough to not bother.
Forgiveness is never easy. We all have to accept the pain and in order to be happy with ourselves do we choose to let go. But what if someone so close to you leaves you without a warning, a goodbye? What if you never get to ask him/her a question "Why did you leave?" I sometimes wonder we have the right to act like how we want but do we not owe anything to others? How cruel it can be if you walk away like this?
In order to forgive the above doing we need a lot of courage but definitely this will never be forgotten. Its not about the ego, the hatred or anything. Its just a question asking if the person had the right to behave like that. The answer will always be No. But the irony is the people who can do this no longer care for what you feel. Yes you must forgive them so that you live a better life. But time and again you will be reminded about the defaulter and way he/she exited from your life. You may mourn at the loss of a friend but its hard to accept that people can be hard hearted enough to not bother.
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ReplyDeleteRightly analyzed.
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ReplyDeleteSo true. The pain remains deep within and the heart keeps asking, 'why' and'why'though life moves on. We do accept but the scar remains;we do forgive, but can never forget!!!!
ReplyDeleteIt's safe not to expect much from others in a relationship. Yet relationship will lack depth then. Inevitable irony.
ReplyDeleteWe may not expect much but we cant accept this either.
ReplyDeleteTo forgive is not to forget. It means that you do remember but you will not let it hurt you again and again and again. You want to free yourself from that hurt and in order to do that, you set free that grudge you hold. It is difficult to achieve but not impossible.
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