I was randomly reading few blog posts when I came across one which shook me a little. The author says that each of us are born to live our own life and not to please others or live upto their expectations. He has cited few examples from his own life story and many people have supported his ideas.
Well I am not being judgmental about him or dishonoring him for his ideas-- but the thought made me think has the world become so selfish that we think of only ourselves? In Bhagwad Gita it is mentioned that we should refrain from expectations as expectations leads to trouble- it hurts. But does that mean we will turn selfish? We will not live upto anybody's expectations? There is a friend of mine who believes that he has married for the sake of getting married- just to fulfill his family's constant nagging wish. He doesnt mind if his wife chooses a better job and stays away from him , its fine with him as he wont mind living alone. Definitely the question arises if you had to live alone what was the point in getting married?
Another friend of mine was just like the author mentioned above. He had a girlfriend who loved her dearly but he dumped her for better future. He was not ready for a relationship. Once I asked him why did you in the first place get into a serious relationship? He coolly said " Come on yaar I am in this world to fulfill my dreams and become what I want, I cant waste my life on her. She will find someone else and probably much better than me."
To this I smiled silently thinking that there hardly will be anybody seriously involved in any relationship if there are more people like you.
We maintain the "Mind your own business" thing at workplaces or places where we dont hold any intimate relationship. But should we say the same thing to our loved ones? To our parents, friends, teachers, students, elders, spouses,children? Should we say to them that we are born to live free and each of us are different individuals with different tastes,choices etc?
Expectations can get you feel less hurt as you would not take it to your heart if things doesnt go well. But there is a difference in being selfish and not keeping expectations. If we dont have people to please or make them happy we would probably end in a lonely world with no one beside our death bed to shed a few drops of tears or take our dead body for cremation and at least remember us when we are not there.
Note: This post is not written to hurt or dishonor anybody. Its just a personal feeling and has got nothing to do with anybody's ideas.
Well I am not being judgmental about him or dishonoring him for his ideas-- but the thought made me think has the world become so selfish that we think of only ourselves? In Bhagwad Gita it is mentioned that we should refrain from expectations as expectations leads to trouble- it hurts. But does that mean we will turn selfish? We will not live upto anybody's expectations? There is a friend of mine who believes that he has married for the sake of getting married- just to fulfill his family's constant nagging wish. He doesnt mind if his wife chooses a better job and stays away from him , its fine with him as he wont mind living alone. Definitely the question arises if you had to live alone what was the point in getting married?
Another friend of mine was just like the author mentioned above. He had a girlfriend who loved her dearly but he dumped her for better future. He was not ready for a relationship. Once I asked him why did you in the first place get into a serious relationship? He coolly said " Come on yaar I am in this world to fulfill my dreams and become what I want, I cant waste my life on her. She will find someone else and probably much better than me."
To this I smiled silently thinking that there hardly will be anybody seriously involved in any relationship if there are more people like you.
We maintain the "Mind your own business" thing at workplaces or places where we dont hold any intimate relationship. But should we say the same thing to our loved ones? To our parents, friends, teachers, students, elders, spouses,children? Should we say to them that we are born to live free and each of us are different individuals with different tastes,choices etc?
Expectations can get you feel less hurt as you would not take it to your heart if things doesnt go well. But there is a difference in being selfish and not keeping expectations. If we dont have people to please or make them happy we would probably end in a lonely world with no one beside our death bed to shed a few drops of tears or take our dead body for cremation and at least remember us when we are not there.
Note: This post is not written to hurt or dishonor anybody. Its just a personal feeling and has got nothing to do with anybody's ideas.
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