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The word friendship doesnt have any limitation that it can be done within same sex,age or religion. Its something beyond any boundaries. Its simple and doesnt need any criteria to fit. However I have seen people with prejudices that they should befriend only in their sex and not with any opposite sex.
If a girl has a lot of male friends its common for her parents to ask "tumhare class mein koi ladkiyan nehi padhti?" Its people's mentality to think that if a girl is befriending a boy then there is something else going on within them. I am sorry but this is the truth even for most of parts of India. I remember a guy saying to me "ek ladki aur ek ladka kabhi dost nehi ban sakte. Agar woh acche dost ban gaye to woh dosti nehi rehti."
I once asked a friend of mine why she is doesnot feel talking to another guy from her state. To that she replied "I am white, he is black so we cant be friends. Our culture doesnt match." Now where does culture comes when it is just to make friendship? Over the years I have realised that friends with opposite sex are much helpful than that of the same sex. Guys generally dont have any insecurities. They share notes, help friends to reach their home, help in case of problems where as girls are more prone to stay away in the times of need. They will be the last person to help you even during or before exams. But exceptions are always there. As this world is based on give and take policy a female friend is more like to back bite another female friend than a male friend.
As far as the word friendship goes it is never bound to any age,sex,religion,colour,race etc etc. It is purely a sweet relationship between individuals who share their personal thought amongst each other. We should never try to bind it with false prejudices. How happy will you be if your friend is beside you at your greatest time and even at your greatest loss? Be it female or male how will it matter if you can share your feelings easily with that person and dont have to pretend to be someone which you are not?
The word friendship doesnt have any limitation that it can be done within same sex,age or religion. Its something beyond any boundaries. Its simple and doesnt need any criteria to fit. However I have seen people with prejudices that they should befriend only in their sex and not with any opposite sex.
If a girl has a lot of male friends its common for her parents to ask "tumhare class mein koi ladkiyan nehi padhti?" Its people's mentality to think that if a girl is befriending a boy then there is something else going on within them. I am sorry but this is the truth even for most of parts of India. I remember a guy saying to me "ek ladki aur ek ladka kabhi dost nehi ban sakte. Agar woh acche dost ban gaye to woh dosti nehi rehti."
I once asked a friend of mine why she is doesnot feel talking to another guy from her state. To that she replied "I am white, he is black so we cant be friends. Our culture doesnt match." Now where does culture comes when it is just to make friendship? Over the years I have realised that friends with opposite sex are much helpful than that of the same sex. Guys generally dont have any insecurities. They share notes, help friends to reach their home, help in case of problems where as girls are more prone to stay away in the times of need. They will be the last person to help you even during or before exams. But exceptions are always there. As this world is based on give and take policy a female friend is more like to back bite another female friend than a male friend.
As far as the word friendship goes it is never bound to any age,sex,religion,colour,race etc etc. It is purely a sweet relationship between individuals who share their personal thought amongst each other. We should never try to bind it with false prejudices. How happy will you be if your friend is beside you at your greatest time and even at your greatest loss? Be it female or male how will it matter if you can share your feelings easily with that person and dont have to pretend to be someone which you are not?
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