Why did you leave?

"I am sorry Anita but we can no longer be friends as we used to be. Something between us was more than friendship and now that you are marrying someone else I think it will be more accurate step at this moment" with tears in her eyes Anita is reminded of the words of Joy as she stares at an old pic of their friends group which somebody has posted on facebook.

With a smile on her lips she asks a simple question to herself "what have I done to deserve a punishment? Joy never told me he had a liking towards me and I never knew. I chose someone else. But in turn I had to sacrifice such a beautiful friendship. How much I miss our jokes, laughter, hanging out in groups, playing pranks on each other. Why on all earth do I have to suffer for something I have not done?"

Her anguish was further elevated by her mother-in law switching on the television where a Jagjit Singh's ghazal was being played
         "Yahi hota hain to akhir yehi hota kyun hain
           Yahi duniya hain to phir aisi yeh duniya kyun hain"

Some observations

The idea of an Undo button or a Ctrl+Z key as we do in computer, had the same existed in our lives too our lives would have been phenomenal.
 If I ask this question to anyone I know I would receive a ballot of hankering.

How often even I have yearned for an Undo button.

But few days back I came across 2 people who actually unwound their time and have travelled to their youth.

There was a biology teacher in my school whom I admired most for her resplendent teaching. I used to take even private tuition from her. Years later I added her in facebook only to be surprised to find that she had remarried at the age of 50. The groom was a batchmate of her from the same school. He is well settled, manager at some prestigious hotel. I didnt know what went wrong in her last marriage but all I knew was that she loved her only son and always loved to adorn herself like girls half her age. And definitely its facebook again to provide all the nitty gritties.

What amuses me is to find out that the newly wed couple is behaving just like a newly wed in their mid twenties or rather a college teen falling in love. My teacher whom I called aunty lovingly poses with her Valentine's Day gift and declares that boyfriends become more romantic when they turn into husbands. May be to her its veritable but definitely its a topic of debate.

And then the husbands posts the pictures of their outings, dinner at weekends, of her charming lady who is obsessed about posing and of course their selfies.

This strikes me sometimes as I find them a little exaggerating their personal lives. Though I am happy with her getting an Undo button in real sense. She cant undo her past that's true but atleast wont repeat the same in future. Now the question is are these all necessary to showcase in a social media? The usage of facebook to showcase sometime love and sometimes disagreement like the newly wed is too much for other people.

Not to sound judgemental but sometimes its annoying to find your most respected teacher dressed up like girls in twenties and behave childishly. Dont we expect her to be more matured at least in this matter?

As I had said before she has started living her life since beginning with some other man. She clicks selfies and posts them and never fail to oblige the people who comment her as "ravishing" even though when she is not.

My concern is simple. Live your life the way you want it. Life will present some opportunity to rewind but yes it will different from the 1st one. But be a little responsible when it comes to social media. People's perspective changes when they get to find every details about your life. And again I am no philosopher who can say what is right or wrong. I just smile at her pictures and hope she remain happy and smiling for ever.

If I could choose how to die

This post is again for an Indispire topic.

Death is the most painful truth of our lives. Throughout our lifespan we try and wish to have a painless and problem free death. But as the word goes "Man proposes God Disposes" we seldom get to die the way we want.

Somedays back I was discussing with a friend about the film Piku where Amitabh Bacchan tells his daughter not to keep him on ventilator as it is painful . They will stick needles all over your body and would make it terrible for you. He wanted to die in peace. And subsequently the question got asked "how do you wish to die or according to you what is the best way to die?" To that my friend answered "if a person dies doing the thing he loves the most, that is the best way. There cannot be anything more enjoyable death than this."

Long back I read in a newspaper when the famous Steve Irwin died his wife said that she is happy as he has died doing something which he loved. Few days back I saw a facebook post on the mountaineer Malli Mastan Babu an IIM alumnus who died while trying to reach another summit. It made me feel just the same.

So far as dying is concerned I would like a peaceful death while asleep just like Amitabh Bacchan in Piku. He died peacefully with a smile on his face having accomplished all what he wanted. The family members are spared from the problem of taking the patient to hospitals and spend thousands on the treatment. The best way to die is to silently move away and spare the others from the trouble. As it might sound harsh but its absolutely true that a bed ridden person is like more of a burden to any of your family members at whatever age be it. People will be caring for sometime and after that they will get fed up with you. And then  countless prayers will go to God to take you away and relive you from the miseries. And when God finally answers the prayers their faces will be like a long lost battle has finally ended. You are now relieved from the duties.

Birth is painful but followed by happiness. The process is fixed we cant change that. But to die in happiness is what we all look forward to. But again we are no one to decide. We can only hope.